4 Noble Truths

4 game-changing truths to remind yourself before the next family gathering:
• Others’ emotions are not my fault.
• I’m not responsible for everyone all of the time.
• Self-abandoning does not make you a more loving person.
• Sacrificing your needs does not help you fill others’ needs.

Why does releasing codependency matter? When you stop feeling guilty for putting your needs first, you show up more fulfilled. Fulfilled people are more loving, patient and present.

If someone makes you feel guilty for putting your needs first, breathe. Remind yourself of the 1st truth: Their anger, insecurity, or disappointment is not your responsibility.
Then, once a day, tap on your four truths as questions.
• What if their emotions are not my fault?
• What if I’m not responsible for everyone all of the time?
• What if self-abandoning doesn’t make me a more loving person?
• What if honoring my needs helps me fill others’ needs?

This truth is easier said than lived so tap as you re-read the questions. Make small notes of things that come up and tap on them. Tap with ease and compassion for yourself and how you feel.